Let me begin this blog by sharing mine and Kathy's wedding vows with you: I pledge to talk to you, to work out our differences,to listen with my mind and heart, to share my joys and fears, to love you into the unknowable future with spirit, laughter and grace.
This past weekend our vows were put to use as a tool to better understand and communicate a concern that had been weighing on me for a long time. Kathy listened with her mind and heart as I shared it. Come to find out she had been having this same concern.
Our trip this weekend was in Asheville to celebrate Ashley and Mark's wedding with a reception. They eloped back in June to Iceland. This reception was an opportunity to bring the two families together to meet for the first time. Everything went well until my outburst when we were leaving. What my outburst was about is truly not important because it really wasn't about that at all.
Andrew and AURY rode there and back with us. The car ride back to their place was a quiet one. After we dropped them off I began to ask Kathy a question about my outburst, before I got the question out she said, yes you were.. Instantly I grasped the stirring wheel tightly. Then just like Niagara Falls out came my bottled up concern that I had been carrying around with me these many years. Low and behold Kathy was had been having the same concern for years to. Just think we would not have known this had we not talked.
It is not important for me to share what the concern was about. The point of this blog is that everyone should remember their vows that they made with their partners. Because those vows were made for a reason.
After Kathy and I talked it out there was a relief for both of us. The next morning my shoulders felt lighter. When we met the kids for breakfast I made my apologies for my outburst the night before. All was forgiven and we had a great breakfast together.
I truly love Kathy's kids and their spouses. I truly feel like a protective parent at times especially to Ashley.
These are my thoughts and feelings from Jillsville.
