The song "What's It All About Alfie" has been playing in my head for the last few days. Especially the following lyrics that say "Is it just for the moment we live" "Are we meant to take more than we give or are we meant to be kind." "I believe in love Alfie. Without true love you just exist. Until you find the love you've missed, you are nothing Alfie. When you walk let your heart lead the way and you'll find love any day Alfie."
With the way my life is going at this point in time it is no wonder that this song comes to my mind. As most of you know my wife Kathy's mother Nancy aka Mutti is living with us now. She has Alzheimer's so it is always a new experience each day. We all pretty much live in the moment because that is what Alzheimer's disease does to a family.
The point is that Kathy and I stay firmly planted in our love. It would be hard to imagine each of us going through this without the other to lean on and be supportive. This is what makes or breaks a marriage and this is what love and marriage are ALL about.
Also we have friends that are going through rough times trying to find someone to share their lives with. It ain't easy to find that special someone but once you do that is when the work has just begun. It doesn't just magically happen. People have said to us "you have such a great relationship." Well yes we do but it has taken alot of work, communication, commitment and therapy to get where we are today. Even now we have our moments of "what the hell" but then we call our therapist or we take a moment and a deep breath then we have a swing talk. Yes we have our "safe space" which we have chosen the front porch swing hence swing talk. Whether it is HOT, COLD, DRY, RAINY OR SNOWY the swing is where we go to talk about the hard stuff. It really works for the two of us as long as we both are willing to be honest with eachother and not avoid talking.
As the song says when you walk let your heart lead the way and you will find love any day. But remember once you find the love you are seeking it doesn't stop there.
These are my thoughts and feelings from Jillsville.
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